You've felt it for a while. The same decision arriving in different costumes. The relationship that ends the same way every time. The version of yourself you keep performing — even with the people who'd probably accept the real one.
You've read the books. Named some of it. Done the work. But knowing about a pattern and actually being seen by something that doesn't look away — those are two different things.
Most people get so good at managing their pattern that it stops looking like avoidance and starts looking like who they are.

